TOPIC: From A Woman | How To Raise The Subject That I Know?

So you can't stand the thought of either one of you harbouring secrets from each other but you secretly go behind his back and start posting about how you hate that the fact he kept this a secret from you and want to tell him you know. What the hell is the point of this? It's obvious he doesn't want you to know and it's not as if he is doing anyting malicious.
This has to be up there in The hall of fame of stupid threads....

Wow - that's pretty crazy. Well, personally I wouldn't bother bringing it up. If he didn't want to mention it, then it's not something he wants to talk about. He may feel embarrassed or outed, even though you are totally fine with it... it can still make him feel insecure or uncomfortable now that he's been "found out". Personally, I don't care who knows what I did and when I did it (in general, except judgmental people)... but not everyone is like this.

On the other hand, he might not care at all that you know at all. But, I'm not sure what there is to gain by bringing it up.

I can't believe you found his thread...well, at least I know it's not me lol.

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The other thing to ask yourself is if you really were doing internet research on sex toy safety, or were just going through his computer history. It matters because he will know the difference right away and it could jeopardize your relationship. I am not saying that you did this, but my ex did that to me and of all the crap about the relationship that I accepted or got over, it is the 1 thing I still hold on to. Ironically he had a similar line about research. Sorry in advance if I it sounds like I am accusing you unjustly.

I think she went through his computer. I think she made up the sex toy thing finding out about his PE adventures to hide the fact she is going through his stuff as all women do (atleast in my experience). I'd highly doubt a sex toy story would come up at the top of google search results from a PE site.

I think i speak for everyone here when i say I hope you stick around. I know what happened sucks, but i will tell you, your thread inspired me to get the procedure done (as with a few others) Ive always looked up to you and looked forward to any and all posts. I also cant imagine how your feeling man. This place wont be the same without you. Whatever you decide I wish you the best, thanks for the last couple years.

well it is a shame that we now will lose a great member, who has contributed a great deal to the community. DWD, I hope you keep your posts here for us to still see, however i have to point out (for your own good) that all it take is one bad argument or if she is in a shitty mood she can tell and show people you know about your personal business on here.

By the way, if he is an active user of this board hasn't he just figured out that you mostly likely know now? How many guys are there on here with a girlfriend, has had 3 rounds of PMMA - and posted his history on here; and is trying out new sex toys with her? (Maybe a lot, I don't know).

Thank you for that. My gut tells me to let him bring it up in his own time...if he wants to. I just hate to keep quiet and have wanted to bring it up, but continually hold my tongue. I just wanted to get some opinions if that was the best course of action. In the meantime, I will just continue to enjoy the "fruits" of his enhancements.

I can't believe you are even considering bringing this up with him. It's clear he doesn't want you to know. Don't even allow yourself to view this as if "he's keeping a secret from me." It's not that kind of situation. Just forget about it. I'ts not a big deal. All that should be important to you is that it's making him feel better about himself.

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Can anyone say what this post was about? It has been deleted.

Edit: Nevermind. Figured out the basis just reading the comments. Would of been better posting this in another forum. Also to on another note sometimes people don't realize they made a bad decision until someone has informed them of their bad decision which was her posting to this forum after finding it.

If he hasn't mentioned it to you at all over this period of time, it's clearly a very sensitive matter to him. This forum is also an anonymous outlet for many men, keep that in mind. He may have pursued penis enlargement to better enhance sex/love life, but still lives in a society where penis enlargement is taboo & embarrassing. I've always encouraged men to be completely honest with their significant others, but it's not always that simple. I don't think his decision to withhold info from you was rooted in deceit, but rather, embarrassment and insecurity. Well that's just a guess. Regardless, I wouldn't bring it up. It's not like you came here and found out he was posting pictures of other women he was sleeping with. In reality, his acts were hardly transgressions, just very personal endeavors. I'd leave it alone.

But yea, crazy you came across the post. Crazy!

I know who the member is and don't think he'd be happy about this thread. If you read through all his posts you can tell penis size has always been a big deal to him and how it effects his confidence with women. If he wanted his GF to know he would have told her. He did this before he met her. It's been a real catharsis for him and shouldn't we all, @hewillnevertell, included, just be happy for the guy. He clearly want to put the past and his old insecurities behind him, so lets just let him do that. It's not as if he's keeping a major secret from you, like he's married, has children or is bi-sexual. As far as secrets go, this one is about as understandable as it gets. Worrying about the fact he's keeping it from you turns the issue to being about you. it was his issue and he dealt with it before he met you.

He hasn't logged on since this thread was started, so why don't we just delete it?

I never went through his computer. Never touched it, nor thought about touching it. I also tried not to be too specific because I don't want him to know who posted here. do want to delete the topic though, so how do I do so?