--- title: "I'm not sure how I can live like this. - PhalloBoards - Phalloboards" description: "I would like to know how people who have had f'd up PE experiences have sex lives... or if they even do. Every time I tried to... - Page 2" url: "https://j4.phalloboards.info/general-forum/love-lust-vanity/7744145-im-not-sure-how-i-can-live-like-this.html?start=15" date: "2026-08-06T23:14:36+00:00" language: "en-GB" --- PhalloBoards - An Online Community to Discuss Penile Girth Enhancement General Forum Doctors Forum Username Password Remember me - [ Forgot your password? ](https://j4.phalloboards.info/component/users/reset.html?Itemid=101) - [ Forgot your username? ](https://j4.phalloboards.info/component/users/remind.html?Itemid=101) - [ Create an account ](https://j4.phalloboards.info/register.html) # TOPIC: I'm not sure how I can live like this. ## Re: I'm not sure how I can live like this. 10 years 10 months ago [\#1289497718](#1289497718) - **[sfdude](https://j4.phalloboards.info/general-forum/user/2106521-sfdude.html "View sfdude's Profile")** - [![sfdude's Avatar](https://j4.phalloboards.info/media/kunena/core/svg/person.svg)](https://j4.phalloboards.info/general-forum/user/2106521-sfdude.html "View sfdude's Profile") - [ Offline](https://j4.phalloboards.info/general-forum/user/2106521-sfdude.html) - General - ![General](https://j4.phalloboards.info/media/kunena/ranks/rank1.gif) - Posts: 40 - Thanks: 0 - [ ](https://j4.phalloboards.info/pms.html?task=new&recip=2106521) > Restoration wrote: SF dude - that's really interesting. I never heard of that before, and I just found a couple of places on yelp. It looks like an audiologist looks at you in order to make these? Does insurance pay? If not, how much do they usually cost? Will they block out high and low frequency? Thank you! Not sure about insurance, but I think it would qualify for an MRA reimbursement. The total cost was quoted to be about $220, which I guess is for 1 set. Additional filters and/or ear plug type would likely add to that. I found the audiologist through the sensaphonics website, and apparently she works with lots of musicians. When I spoke to her about my reasons for it (snoring GF, plane ride, hear people better in bars/clubs, etc) she indicated that it would do all of that. If it works like I hope, is comfortable, and has a low profile like the pictures, then I'll be well worth the money. I'll let you know in a few weeks after I get them and try them out. 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I lived with Peyronies for 4 years , trying everything before surgery because I was afraid to have surgery. Then, I had the surgery & PMMA 5 months after. In December, it will be 2 years after my first PMMA surgery...so in some ways, I feel worse off than I did when this all began. I just had a curve and a narrow area back then...no lumps or scars. The scars will fade. The lumps haven't changed in 6 months. I'm not sure about the skin. The curve might go away when the skin stretches...not sure if / how much. 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I think your first round kind of made your point But I am glad you called him out - that is a shitty way to introduce yourself. 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Most people say it's overkill to have custom ear plugs, but those who have them say it's worth the money. The selling point to me is the perfect fit, comfort, and the customized filter (block all noise vs. reduce). I have a vacation coming up (long flight and many bars and clubs), so they should come in handy. 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In the last 6 months, I've become a little reclusive and gained a lot of weight. It's hard to undo that & try to do as you suggest... but the trajectory I am on isn't great. I discovered quite a bit on netflix and hulu, though. I've been working from home 90% of the time, too - unless I have doctors' appointments anyway. I don't feel like dealing with anyone, and the phase of research study I am in now can be done anywhere (data analysis & write-up). My sleeping is shitty too lately. > theres a ton of other things that make you great. It will be nice when I actually can believe that internally. I'm not saying I think my Dick is all that matters, but I wasn't someone with the greatest self esteem and body image to begin with. The penis enlargement gave me a rather sizable self esteem boost, and thus the problems gave me the direct opposite effect (x2). 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Hoddle, you're right about the psychological effect of just seeing it look better Flaccid, even if it has a long road ahead, Erect. This pic is amazing - you can't really see either scar or the lumps on the left side. DMSO sort of made the left side less "tight" (that's the lumpy side, not the side with the scars). This happened the last time, right when I applied it. In person, of course it's not this great - but it's nice to have this pic. It's hard to ignore the problem entirely. I mean, every time I pee - I am reminded of all this by seeing it hit the right edge of the toilet bowl (Even though I am standing in the middle). 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I never heard of that before, and I just found a couple of places on yelp. It looks like an audiologist looks at you in order to make these? Does insurance pay? If not, how much do they usually cost? Will they block out high and low frequency? Thank you! 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In fact technically speaking I still am, as I hate people seeing my penis. I felt close to suicidal following a couple of my surgical fuck ups. You made the exact same mistakes I did, which was rushing to try and fix things so you could move on with you life as soon as possible and put this shit behind you. I could not believe it when I logged in the other day, after a week away and you'd had another surgery! If you follow jewdubs posts you'll see he did the same thing, though prefers to not to acknowledge it. Others have to learn from our mistakes. I know your surgeon told you it was absolutely the right thing to do to remove your nodules, but they never doubt their own opinions. The quick fix is rarely the right move in my experience and usually leads to further problems. From experience time and patience really are your friends. My penis has come back from worse than yours and actually looks pretty normal. You won't have to stretch 1.5 years to get your length back. You haven't lost any length in real terms. Your penis is the same size it always was. The difference is that there are now some restrictions holding it back. All you've got to do is stretch the restrictive tissue. That is time consuming and inconvenient, but it's a job that will take months, not years. It's not like you have a scar capsule like the Elist patients. You'll have a bit of scarring from the Nodule Removal and you are short some skin, but with a good and consistent stretching regime, you should see fast progress. Remember you don't have to replace all the missing the skin. You just need to enough to accommodate your Erect length. If I were you I'd stretch around the waste, attaching bungee chord to a ring so you can apply tension to the side of the penis that needs stretching. I'd do that during the day until you get your length back. At night I'd make a semi T-Tape and wear it whilst I sleep in order to stretch the skin. As you know, I also like to use DMSO. Wait several weeks before starting though and make sure your incisions have fully healed. There is no point sitting around and feeling sorry for yourself, thinking about what you should have done differently, as that doesn't help you get out of this situation. Only proactive (no more Dr's or surgery) things can do that. Spend the next few weeks gathering everything you will need and prepare a stretching schedule that initially isn't too intense and allows your penis and skin to gradually adjust to being under tension, then increase both time and tension over the coming weeks. You could start using DMSO now. I've always found the medications that increase blood flow to the penis also seem to help with healing or at the very least make me feel better during the healing the process. Heat is also very useful for stretching, so look into heat sources that you can apply throughout the day. But, as I've already said, the main thing to do is to not dwell on the past and concentrate your thoughts on the things that can help you move forward. 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The left scar is 6 weeks old and the right scar is 11 days old...so the thickness should reduce over time. The Monocryl stitches inside don't even dissolve until 90-120 days....so it's nothing to worry about. I'm amazed at my left / upper scar to begin with. You can see the nodules on the left, here... ironically, more PMMA in that little gap would've helped this whole mess. 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Like, negative. I sent him some pics of my Dick chopped up and said "here, hope this makes you 'furious'" and then I told him that he's just a typical lobotomized queen from (a certain company I know well) and a certain neighborhood I don't live in... and he lied about being new to the city, etc... I don't regret it. Anyway, I woke up with a 9/10 Erection this morning and it looked GREAT! No dents, no lumps, no hard spots. When It's super hard, all that sort of "smooths out" I think. I do have 2 scar bands, where the excisions were. One was on the top - where the scar is faded but the doc took all the PMMA out of there so it's dented. The lower scar band is only 2 weeks old so it's raised in most of it. In a month or so, it should be flatter. But the Erection looked pretty damn good, considering I am only 2 weeks post. It was curved, of course, but that is unavoidable now. Over time, that might correct itself. 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I really think you should try something like that. I can't tell you what a difference it has on your mental state when your Flaccid has more fullness to it, especially when you are used to see it being compromised following surgery. seeing your penis Hanging fuller has a kind of anti depressant effect. Please [Log in](https://j4.phalloboards.info/login.html?return=aHR0cHM6Ly9qNC5waGFsbG9ib2FyZHMuaW5mby9nZW5lcmFsLWZvcnVtL2xvdmUtbHVzdC12YW5pdHkvNzc0NDE0NS1pbS1ub3Qtc3VyZS1ob3ctaS1jYW4tbGl2ZS1saWtlLXRoaXMuaHRtbD9tYXJrZG93bj0xJnN0YXJ0PTE1) or [Create an account](https://j4.phalloboards.info/register.html) to join the conversation. 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