TOPIC: How many times a week do you have sex?

PMMAallTHEway wrote: PMMA Did help but honestly life just kept throwing curveballs at us. At me. Kinda why I decided to track this. I did not include the notes about med changes and work/school issues. Kids moving out. Moving in. Just so many variables. For example: We had sex every single day from Nov 20th when her classes ended for break until Dec 1st when she started back up and took a new job at work. While I'm still Very Ready, she has not let me touch her since. So I have no answers really. Just a lot of data...lol

Ok, so you had sex about 10 times in 10 days and NO sex for about 20 days. So, in one month you had sex 10 times, that's about once every three days....yes?

That is correct. Although the long delays in between make the reality worse than the averages look.

@hoddle

Statistics show that married men have sex more often. I think having children is what killed my wife's interest.

@rustyboar

While I do not advocate cheating, I would be bald face lying if I didn't say that I think about it. Sex is vital to a man's health and testosterone levels. I NEED sex as much as possible. Can't wait to get back to good ole Tijuana. Ummm... No particular reason. Oh yeah! Round 3! Duh!

I'm looking forward to actually being able to have sex again.

That seems to be very common with a lot of women now saying crap like that. Then there is us trying to feel better about ourselves, just like they try and feel better about themsevels with breast enlargement. Except when we try and do it, we are called vain and they say it's wrong. I can't really help the fact that I didn't have enough growth hormone during puberty, which is a lot of my size issue, at least that's what one doctor told me.

Once every week or as along as once in two weeks.
If not I become a prick and start bitching. She only ever
Comes on to me if she had a lot of drinks, it sucks.that's why
I am considering enlargment. It also didn't help that she said I
Was the smallest she had.
Kcchief

Age 39
Wife 26
0-1 times per week

Wife's libido can't touch mine. I would be at least a 1/day man minimum. It causes marital strife.

*** I should add that intercourse frequency plummeted after we had children. *** We have three.

rustyboar wrote: If you have sex only 1 a week you have sex 44 times out of 365 days a year cheating start looking like a good idea

PMMA starts to seem like a waste of money.

I've been using a few different tracking apps for a similar reason. My wife takes meds for her medical issues. Currently I use my tracker. I can put in custom fields and get detailed info.

I can say even with medical changes we can track how it effects and affects her in many ways and reasons other than just sex. I can say that on average in the last 68 months we have had sex or sexual contact ( blow jobs, hand jobs, sex.....) 329 times that works to an average of about 4.83 times a month.


It sometimes comes in spurts of 7 times in one week then 3 weeks without any contact. I notate med changes, sleep patterns and all. It is very helpful app that we rely on for raw data.

As many of you know my wife was inpatient treatment when I first came to PB. During that tracking time she was in treatment for a total of 23 of those months, so I really could make a valid arguement and say it was an average of 7.3 times a month.

Prior to the last 6.5 years we were in a bad place in our marriage for a few years. About 10 years ago her mother passed,about a year later her father passed away. She went into a deep depression, her meds changed, we had recently moved, life was in session and then blam went 13 months with zero sex.

I had moved into a different room in our house and things looked bleak. Once she changed meds and things were crazy in her head that's when the inpatient treatment center trips started. We spent our whole retirement savings for her medical treatment. Things are good now, she is healthier, our sex life is better and we are both happy. Lots of therapy and counselling.

So tracking sex feels weird at times but for us it helps identify issues in meds and depression related issues.

I got sex every day before we had kids. After my first was born my wife quit wanting to have sex all together. It stayed that way for 3-1/2 years. I realistically had sex once every other month and it was absolutely terrible. I have never been a person that would even consider cheating, but about 6 months ago I reached my breaking point and started to not only entertain the idea, but to look pretty hard. Fortunately my conscious got the best of me and I sat down my wife down for a talk. As I have said before we are brutally honest with each other so I just told her the truth. I said I am only 30 and you have denied me sex for the better part of 4 years. If something doesn't change immediately I have every intention of starting to fuck other women. I am not sure what kind of fire that lit under her ass, but I have been getting laid almost every night since. She said she had actually forgotten that she enjoyed sex, because she was in such a "mommy mode". She is also making an appointment to have her hormone levels checked to make sure that everything is normal. Either way I am happy to be getting laid again and even get BJ's when she able to have sex.

If you have sex only 1 a week you have sex 44 times out of 365 days a year cheating start looking like a good idea

Well... Not exactly. She enjoys it more but her libido can't touch mine. I want it 24/7.

Age: 24
Partners: 18 - 29

3 - 4 times per week. It's a lot easier to get more sex when you have lots of partners

Whoops, didn't realize how old this was.

Did you guys have more sex with the wife after PMMA?

Ok guys. I know this is gonna sound weird, obsessive, surely OCD-ish but about sept 2009 I began noting in excel every single time my wife and I had sex. I was curious like this forum suggest on just how many times we did it. I also noted major events to see how they affected the pattern. Medicine changes as well.

We are both 39 and no kids together. My son is 14 and hers are 18/21

Here's the data. Love to. Hear thoughts or questions....



# days Avg/Week Avg/Day % Days w/Sex
Total 2009 12 (4 months data only') 0.8 0.1 10.0%
Total 2010 34 (Full year data) 0.7 0.1 9.3%
Total 2011 78 (Full year data) .5 0.2 21.4%
Total 2012 69 (Year to Date) 1.3 0.2 18.9%