TOPIC: Source of size insecurity

Dance With Dragons wrote: The source of all of this is the inability to accept that none of us are perfect, none of us are even close. We are not god's gift to women, most of us really are barely adequate, and frankly we're lucky to be that. A lot of us will go through life never really being loved, never really satisfying a woman, and that's because most women, just like men, can neither love nor be satisfied. If you had a giant Dick but were missing money, or looks, or height, or talent or personality... You would still come up short. It's why the richest people still want more money, why successful entertainers still continue to pander when they don't need to, just trying win over a few more fans, and why guys who already have a decent Dick still feel insecure, because there isn't enough of anything in the whole world to fill that "I want" void.

We're all so damn hung up on the idea that if we had a huge Cock we'd be able to fill the void in any woman's life and then she would love us above all others and crave only us... What a complete crock of shit. Even if that were true, we would become unimpressed with women as a whole because it would be easy and then we'd stop caring what women thought of us, and we'd move on to God knows what next, whatever we couldn't have so we could focus on and put a name to the void in our chest and our mind, to blame something outside of us for the way we feel, and then say, "If I only had this I'd be complete" but we never will be. Not ever, not as long as we live will we ever be enough; we will never impress women, we will never satisfy them and we will never be satisfied either. There is no solution to any of this, we will never win.

When a game is rigged or worse, broken, the only way to win is to get up and walk away. This game can't be won, and no matter what we do, chasing these thoughts down the rabbit hole will only continue to destroy us one breath at a time. I am just as guilty of all of this, and I am just as frustrated and angry as you are. I have a huge Dick compared to what I had before and I feel as small as I ever did because I will never ever be "good enough". That doesn't exist for me, nor anyone else. No one is good enough.

What is the solution? To stop playing the fucking game. It's over. We didn't lose, we didn't win, we just need to realize that it's not a fun game and stop playing before it drives us completely mad. Life is short and getting shorter every minute. Who cares if I'm tearing some bitches pussy up or if she can't even feel me. What the hell does that have to do with me. What difference does it make? Nothing. Not one bit of difference to your life, my life or anyone else's. We're still dying, we're still on the way out, getting older and slower each minute that passes, and we will never stop looking for and finding a reason for why we are soooo much smaller and more worthless than everyone else. In the end, we think that because that's what we want to think. It gives us a reason to keep getting up in the morning, it gives us a narrative. We're the worthless small guy, the guy that no one will ever care about, the guy who got handed a raw deal and wasn't blessed with the biggest out of 3.6 billion cocks. We were cheated and not made a god among men and we will never forgive ourselves for that, the audacity to be born flawed, frail, insecure, weak and worst of all, human.

Yeah man, I get it, round 3 will fix it all. For sure.

Restoration wrote: My friend just texted this to me (I am obviously not on this app since I am in sexual quarantine) but this sums up about 70% of interactions with other gay men online. There's a source of insecurity if I ever saw one.

buttercups wrote: Before I go any further, I will say this: I love my wife and my children very much.
In the last 2 years, I've had very little sex with my wife. Probably about 10 to 30 times. Earlier relationships I had with women: we had sex like 3 times a day or more / less / at least once a day (when average). Initially, I equated this to a problem with being too big. Later, I attributed it to her not being attracted to my Dick post-PMMA. Now, I equate this to being a problem with her libido and / or my expectations. IE - it is "normal". Also plus the fact that women cannot take a big one that often.

I'm posting today, on this thread, because I feel that I'm really getting deeper, and closer to the matter at hand. Before PMMA, I really was about average, maybe even above average. I was 6.5 EL X 5 EG. I am now 6.25 EL X 5.75 (maybe even 6) EG. My Girth now is clearly way above average.

For the first year, post PMMA, I was strictly faithful to my wife. As the amount of sex I received decreased, I increased the amount of "outside sexual attention" that I was receiving. To remain "sane". As things in my sex life got progressively worse, I (finally) turned to actual penetrative sex outside of our relationship. Part of my choice to have sex outside of the marriage was selfish, but some of it really was because I wanted to try out my new tool.

I am finally at a turning point, I now realize that the whole thing really has nothing to do with the penis at all. But it is more complex than that. Which I will elaborate on.

Before my marriage, I probably slept with 200+ women. After my marriage, I have now slept with 5-10+ women. It sounds terrible, I know.

I am admitting this now, not because I am bragging, or feeling self pity, but because I have had a chance to use my post PMMA Cock with at least 10 women. Now before anybody goes on assuming things, lets remember that before my marriage, I used my pre-PMMA Cock with at least 200 women.

I am sharing this, because pre-PMMA, before meeting my wife, I legitimately struggled with penile size anorexia. I know many millions of other men do too. So I am posting.

I now want to share the truth that has been uncovered by my life experiment. I am sharing this because I want (other) men, to know the truth. Period - at least from my experience. The output of the below is the result of my experiences in my life.

Unfortunately, I only have feedback for men who are average sized or larger.
However, I am almost certain that what I say below HOLDS TRUE for smaller men.

Okay guys, ready? - here it is.

1. Women do notice a difference in size. All of them.
2. There are no medals awarded for being too big. (or average, or small)
3. Some women are not aroused by average penises.
4. Some women are not aroused by large penises.
5. Some women are not aroused by small penises.
6. Most women think 5.5+ EG is TOO big.
7. Most women can enjoy average sized penises - ALOT.
8. Most women can enjoy large sized penises - ALOT - Usually WITH PAIN.
9. Some women are curious about trying sex with a large penis. But generally, they still experience PAIN.
10. Women generally use size as a tool to manipulate men emotionally. Small, Medium, AND Large.
11. A large penis can and does often does hurt a woman physically.
12. A average penis does not generally hurt women.
13. Normal women do not respond to a big penis in real life the way they do in porn.
14. Women enjoy sex with average men, ALOT.
15. Women enjoy sex with large men, ALOT - but with PAIN.
16. A 'quicky' is not easily possible with a large Girth (with most women).
17. A woman can "feel" a big penis more than they can "feel" an average penis.
18. From a mans perspective, it "feels" almost the same - a bit tighter, but with other "issues".
19. Some women "brag" about large penises with other women even if they don't enjoy it. (I found texts of my wife "bragging" to other women even though she clearly enjoyed my average penis more. - She had much more regular sex with my average penis - and appeared physically to enjoy it more.
20. All people respond to the presence large penis more than an average penis - Yes, they know it is around and can detect it.
21. Most men are insecure about having a large penis "around".
22. Most women are "attracted/nervous" to the idea of having a large penis "around".
23. Women care more about size than they do about how it looks.
24. A larger penis will generally cure penis anorexia however it will not cure alcoholism (it might make it worse).
25. A larger penis will make its owner feel more confident, at least if they play with their business.
26. A long penis is actually a liability, not a benefit, with many women - I've had several women (the majority) confide that if my penis was longer that really, they would not be able to service it comfortably. I should note that this was something that happened AFTER my alteration. I've had multiple women tell me I am "perfect as long as I am not longer". This is peculiar. Women don't normally say this.
27. Some women with a very small vagina are more likely to enjoy (more) a large penis physically - however, WITH PAIN. I should note that these women are VERY acutely aware of size. The woman with the "smallest" vagina seemed to enjoy it the most. This would suggest that the statement "size matters" is essentially true, with caveats.
28. If size does matter to women, it does not matter as much as men think it does. Men think it (small size) is like "Eggs benedict without hollandaise", but really it is like "Eggs benedict with a little less sauce". In other words, its still damn good regardless. So lets codify this: Sex with a small penis still feels pretty awesome for women.


That is it for now. I will add more if I think they're true.